Quote of the Week-HaRav Bina’s Speech from the Grand Siyum

Birshut Moreinu veRabeinu Harav Yaakov Katz Shlit”a, birshut Moreinu veRabeinu Harav Nebenzahl Shlit”a, birshut the Rabbanim who are so devoted to our Yeshiva, each in their own way – kulam ahuvim.

Since the passing of Rav Korn’s first wife, Taube Yehudis a”h bas Avraham Yitzchak sheyichye, her parents have dedicated this evening in her memory, we would like to thank them and may this be l’ilui nishmata.
I would like to begin by thanking a few people. First and foremost Harav Chaim Eisenstein and his wife Aliza for their great devotion to the Yeshiva. He gave so much to the Yeshiva and was considered a pillar of the Yeshiva. I love him personally and feel that I am part of his family and he is part of my family. I would also like to thank Harav Aryeh and Tamar Varon for his devotion to the Yeshiva. He would spend many hours talking to the boys both first year and second year about belief in Hashem and about the importance of staying for a second year. May Hakadosh Baruch Hu bless both these special Rabbanim and their wives with success in ruchniyus and gashmiyus and may they be blessed with true Yiddishe nachas from their children, grandchildren, and IY”H great grandchildren. In the merit of their devotion to the Yeshiva and the talmidim may Hashem bless them with extra devotion and bracha. As a token of our appreciation we are presenting them with a gift.

I want to thank Mauro Levinbuk, Uri Kari, and all the people who work in the office and maintenance. I am including the chef, other kitchen staff, other workers, and of course Chairman Asi. I would like to mention Harav Yoel Cohen who came up with the idea a few years ago that we should finish a massechet in the summer and make a grand siyum. Thanks to him it has been a great success and may the zechut of this siyum bring a refuah sheleima for his daughter who is in great need of a refuah.

Special thanks to all the Rebbetzins, wives of the Rabbanim, especially those who live in the Jewish Quarter. It’s not easy having students who in the beginning of the year don’t necessarily behave properly and even at the end of the year how many of them help and how many say thank you nicely. How many bring a nice gift? I would like to publicly say that those of you who bring a 10 shekel bottle of wine that this is insulting and rather not bring anything at all.

Last but not least, most of all, I would like to thank my wife for all her support and for all that she has to put up with. This week was her mother’s yahrzeit and there is no question that whatever she has she received from her mother. We must understand that whatever we receive is from our parents – your parents are your miniature G-d. Don’t talk back to them and wherever they want to take you go with them without protesting. There is one thing you can discuss with them but only in a nice way and with a large dose of love – coming back shana bet. I am not giving you permission to fight with your mother, but I am basing my words on the Gemara: “in the way a person wants to go, in that way he is lead”. If you really want you will be able to stay for shana bet, if you don’t really want then you won’t be able to come – don’t blame your mother. Psychologists say a person needs three things in life: water, food, and someone to blame.

While I’m thanking my wife I would like to also thank my daughter-in-law. I’m not getting younger and it is not always easy having so many guests in the house. My daughter-in-law told us that any Shabbos we want we can come to them. For us this is a very special gift and we are very grateful. I wish my son and daughter-in-law and family many years of hatzlacha, gezunt, and nachas.

Special thanks to the madrichim – keep in mind that a Yeshiva without madrichim is like a Yeshiva without a kitchen, it simply cannot function. I am sure that in the beginning of the year the boys wonder who they hate more Aharon Bina or the madrichim. I remember at the beginning of the year some boys complained to me about how bad Kobi is. I believe that all of you who began the year speaking against Kobi must ask him mechila – we have never had such a special madrich – he is all Torah and it is a big zechus to have him as a madrich. Thanks to Tzvi Satt and Rav Adi Shemesh. Finally, thanks to Moossa Levian and his wife and children, without them the Sephardi program would not enjoy such success. He and Josh and the boys from Great Neck are our future – they will cause a great revolution and change. It’s not enough that you are the cream of the crop of the Sephardi community but you must bring Torah to Great Neck, without Torah we have nothing. With Hashem’s help, we will see what we can do to help you and we need your support as well. Perhaps you can convince some of your Ashkenazi brethren to remember what the Yeshiva did on their behalf – may you go from strength to strength and from bracha to bracha.

As Rav Amos said, every end of year siyum is beautiful but for that to happen we need a large amount of siyata d’Shmaya. Baruch Hashem that we had a fantastic group likeyou this year. I would say that we succeed in 90% of our mission with almost everyone. To succeed 100% requires brainswashing which we are not here to do. I want to tell all of you what a pleasure it was to speak to you and spend time with you and watch you develop, this was a very special year.

I am not going to speak for long, but one thought on Massechet Sotah that we just completed. The Gemara asks why the Torah juxtaposes the section on Nazir to the section on Sotah. The Gemara answers that whoever sees a Sotah in her ruin should “yazir” himself from wine. What does this mean? There is a view in Chazal that looks down on one who becomes a nazir. What then does the Gemara mean? One of the baalei musar – the Mishmar HaLevi cites the Meiri in Masseches Brachos – the way I understand it is as follows. When we see a car driving on Shabbos, the first reaction might be to take a stone and throw it at it. The same should be when we see a Sotah – we should scream: “you shiktze, how can you do such a thing?” and then spit at her. Why does the Gemara say that a person who sees a sotah must “lehazir” himself from wine?

The answer is that when we see a Sotah or for that matter someone being mechalel Shabbos, maybe something is wrong with us and we need improvement. Maybe we weren’t involved in kirvu. Perhaps this woman became a Sotah because she drank too much – therefore “lehazir” himself from wine doesn’t mean to become a nazir but to make sure not to drink too much. Many of you spent much money on drinking in the beginning of the year, the only atonement is to now give the money to Tomchei Shabbos. There’s nothing wrong with a bit of wine, but to “go out drinking with your friends”? With friends like these who needs enemies. Tonight we feel true simcha and don’t need to drink to celebrate it.

Remember, each of you is a Sefer Torah, when you go back home think to yourself that you are part of the legacy that you must continue. When I mentioned the siyum to Rav Shai Gerson he said the following dvar Torah that I would like to quote in his name: The Torah tells us that we may not erase the Name of Hashem, yet in the case of Sotah Hashem asks us to do this – what is going on here? The answer is that what keeps us going and what will keep the Jewish people going is the family unit – mother, father, and children. I ask that when you get married do everything possible to work on your marriage and avoid divorce. None of us is perfect including myself – we must work on it constantly – give in, give in on your principles so you can live in “ahava veachva veshalom vereiut” – friends give in on principles for the sake of the friendship.

If that doesn’t work – Hashem said we can even burn His Name for the sake of Shalom Bayit. Remember, Chazal teach us that there is no ketuva over which there wasn’t some argument – kulam ahuvim, but remember there is nothing wrong with giving in. In the merit of our completing Massechet Sotah, we should be blessed that the Torah “lo yamush mipicha umipi zaracha umipi zera zaracha meatah ve’ad olam.

I would like to thank all the parents for giving us their sons, and with Hashem’s help may you have much nachas from them and all your offspring.

 

The boys who finished a Mesechet for the first time!

The boys who finished Sotah 8 times!
(From L-R) Zachy Goldberg, Yosef Borochov, Yitzi Felman, Netanel Stern, Roey Kohanim, Mikey Livi, Yoni Benchabbat (all Shana Alef). Not in the picture, Ranan Coren, Zach Tuchman (Shana Alef)
and Sam Koslover (Shana Bet)
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